Tools

Find What's Right For You.

Tools that helped me when anxiety took over.

‍This space gathers practices and approaches I’ve personally used to regulate my nervous system, release tension, and feel safer in my body.
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Some offer immediate relief, others support deeper healing.You can explore by theme: Immediate relief, emotions, shame, the body, balance, joy, and support.

There’s no right way to use this.
Take what helps. Leave the rest.

Immediate Relief
Healing CPTSD
Emotional Regulation
Body & Nervous System
Joy & Play
Pregnancy & Anxiety
Breathing Techniques for emergency
Immediate Relief

Breathing Techniques for emergency

When emotions run high and time is short, simple breathing and grounding techniques offer relief and help calm the nervous system in just a few minutes.
Change Location, Shift Your Mindset
Immediate Relief

Change Location, Shift Your Mindset

Change location to shift your mindset, can do wonders when anxiety hits. Physically taking yourself out of the environment where the trigger lives.
Using Cold exposure to calm anxiety, fast!
Immediate Relief

Using Cold exposure to calm anxiety, fast!

Cold showers, ice on the wrists, or a cold foot bath can quickly interrupt anxiety by shocking the body, boosting focus, and breaking the cycle of overwhelming thoughts.
The 8-Minute Empathy Phone Call
Immediate Relief

The 8-Minute Empathy Phone Call

An 8-minute call with someone you trust can ease anxiety, loneliness, and low mood—offering quick emotional relief through simple human connection.
Why I create “Safe Places” ? Spaces Where I Feel Safe ?
Immediate Relief

Why I create “Safe Places” ? Spaces Where I Feel Safe ?

Having a few familiar, calming places, like a favorite café or walking route, can provide emotional relief during stressful moments by offering predictability, comfort, and a sense of safety.
Schedule More Sessions with Your Therapist
Immediate Relief

Schedule More Sessions with Your Therapist

Asking for help—whether from a therapist or someone you trust—isn’t a setback but a powerful act of self-care. When things feel too heavy, reaching out can be the fastest way forward.
A Ready-to-Go “Activity Kit”
Immediate Relief

A Ready-to-Go “Activity Kit”

Keeping a few go-to activities—like reading, sketching, or journaling—ready to grab helps reduce overwhelm and supports emotional balance when decision-making feels too hard.
I haven't got it all figured out

I haven't got it all figured out

A check-in about what it looks like when anxiety takes over, even when you “know the tools”. What’s been hard lately, and what I’m doing to be a little kinder to myself.
The hardest last 16 months of my life...

The hardest last 16 months of my life...

The past 16 months were shaped by the death of a father who never made things right, forcing me to carry unresolved anger, quiet grief, and the loss of what never was while still staying functional and self-supporting. Instead of breaking or romanticizing it, I became clearer, more embodied, more selective, and more alone at times because I stopped tolerating what costs me my nervous system.
Anxiety Tools I Haven’t (Yet) Tried & That Might Work for You

Anxiety Tools I Haven’t (Yet) Tried & That Might Work for You

Healing is personal and there are so many tools out there. Some I haven’t gotten around to yet, and others I’m just beginning to explore. These might not be part of my journey right now, but they could be meaningful and powerful for you.
Body Focus
When Setting a Boundary Feels Like a Breakup
Body Focus

When Setting a Boundary Feels Like a Breakup

Sometimes setting a boundary doesn’t feel peaceful at all! It feels like heartbreak.
Shame
When Kindness Turns Into Shame
Shame

When Kindness Turns Into Shame

Have you ever said something with the best of intentions, only to replay it later and wish you hadn’t said anything at all? That sinking feeling, the heat in your chest, the loop of “why did I do that?”, that’s shame. And it’s one of the most human experiences there is.
Immediate Relief
Healing CPTSD outside of Therapy: Gentle, Real Ways to Rebuild Yourself
Immediate Relief

Healing CPTSD outside of Therapy: Gentle, Real Ways to Rebuild Yourself

Can you heal Complex PTSD outside of therapy? Many trauma survivors do through somatic work, mindfulness, and self-compassion. Here’s what actually helps when you’re healing on your own, drawn from real community experiences and my own journey.
DBT tools I use for Anxiety, Overthinking and Emotional Dysregulation
Emotional Balance

DBT tools I use for Anxiety, Overthinking and Emotional Dysregulation

DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) can sound complicated, but it is really just a set of tools that help you stay grounded. I share the ones I reach for when my emotions run high.
Anxiety and menstrual cycle
Emotional Balance

Anxiety and menstrual cycle

Tracking my cycle has changed the way I understand my moods and energy shifts. Here I share how I plan around different phases of my cycle and why working with my body instead of against it has brought me more ease, balance, and self-compassion.
Supplements for anxiety that actually help
Emotional Balance

Supplements for anxiety that actually help

What I eat and drink has a real impact on how I feel emotionally. In this post, I share the simple food choices and supplements that help me feel calmer and more balanced, without turning it into a strict or overwhelming set of rules.
Small Rituals That Bring Me Balance When Life Feels Too Much
Emotional Balance

Small Rituals That Bring Me Balance When Life Feels Too Much

I’m not a big routine person, but I’ve found that a few gentle rituals can make a world of difference. Here I talk about the small things I do in the morning and evening that keep me grounded, plus how planning little joys helps me feel lighter and more stable.
Social Media, Notifications, and Anxiety
Emotional Balance

Social Media, Notifications, and Anxiety

Constant pings and endless scrolling were quietly feeding my anxiety. In this post, I share the simple phone boundaries I set for myself, like deleting apps and silencing notifications, and how these changes gave me more peace of mind and presence in my everyday life.
How to identify emotions
Identifying Emotions

How to identify emotions

Understanding our emotions can be challenging, but the Wheel of Emotions offers a valuable way to identify and articulate what we're experiencing.
Nervous system stuck in survival mode.
Body Focus

Nervous system stuck in survival mode.

Lately, I’ve been noticing how easy it is for me to slip back into survival mode, even when things are mostly fine. I can be doing all the right things and still feel like my body is quietly bracing for something.
Somatic exercises for anxiety
Body Focus

Somatic exercises for anxiety

Sometimes the best way to ease anxiety is to let your body be cared for. Here are simple self-care rituals, like osteopathy, massage, sauna, or a warm bath, that help me feel grounded and calm.
Somatic shaking exercises for anxiety / TRE
Body Focus

Somatic shaking exercises for anxiety / TRE

Embodied exercices are just fancy words to mean bringing movement to the body. Explore some of my recommendations, things that work for me, to reconnect to my body and be in the now instead of in my head.
Take up space & laugh and Play Like a Child
Cultivating Wonder

Take up space & laugh and Play Like a Child

Laughter and play aren’t just silly extras, they’re powerful ways to shift your mood, reduce stress, and reconnect with joy.
Learning to Cultivate Joy
Cultivating Wonder

Learning to Cultivate Joy

Noticing small, everyday moments of wonder can shift your perspective and soften anxious thoughts. From stargazing to morning coffee, simple joys can become anchors of calm.
Creativity, A Powerful Tool for Managing Anxiety
Immediate Relief

Creativity, A Powerful Tool for Managing Anxiety

Creative activities like writing, painting, or gardening reduce stress, boost mood, and help process emotions—much like meditation. They can bring joy, focus, and a sense of growth through the simple act of creating.
Do I Actually Need to Buy Maternity Clothes? The Pregnancy Anxiety Tip I Wish I Had Taken Seriously

Do I Actually Need to Buy Maternity Clothes? The Pregnancy Anxiety Tip I Wish I Had Taken Seriously

Do I actually need to buy maternity clothes? An honest pregnancy anxiety post about body image, sizing up, early weight gain, and why buying clothes that fit your body now can make a huge difference.
The Baby Was Fine. I Was Not.

The Baby Was Fine. I Was Not.

The baby was okay. So why, several hours later, was I sitting on a bench, crying like something terrible had happened?
Pregnancy, when your body has never really felt safe
Pregnancy

Pregnancy, when your body has never really felt safe

There is a version of pregnancy people know how to talk about. The one where your body becomes a home, and that idea is supposed to feel beautiful almost immediately.Maybe that is true for some people.But that has not really been my experience. Or at least not fully.
Otterly Anxious